Fighting to Bend Together
I have been talking about bending and not breaking the past couple of weeks. As individuals, we sometimes reach a point where we need to learn to rely on God's love and strength to get us through times of stress, frustrations, and darkness. We have to learn how to take care of ourselves, nourishing our bodies and our spirit.
In those times, if we are in a relationship, we also rely on our other half to be there for us. I have talked about my husband and how he needed that love and strength from God, and from me. Can I be honest for a second? Being married can be really hard. Being strong and giving to my husband sometimes makes me angry. And I feel really bad admitting that. But it is important I communicate that with you. (Yes, I have communicated that with my husband as well!!!)
Earlier this week during my morning run and prayer time, I turn on Pandora Christian Radio to inspire me. And this song came on. I had never heard it before. But it really, REALLY resonated with me. It's called "Fight For You" by Grayson/Reed. Please take a listen. The lyrics are also on the video so you can read along.
This song literally took my breath away and immediately made me cry. Why? Because I could have written this song, 100%. (Okay, it wouldn't have sounded as good, but the idea would have gotten though!) Josh and I can certainly push one another's buttons, we know how to make the other hurt. But we know how to show one another how much we love the other. I am a champion for Josh and he is my loving protector. However, the MOST important words in this song say "When we keep God in the center"...that right there, THAT is what it takes.
There are times in our marriage that bending is really hard for us to do. We feel as though we are going to break. It gets REALLY REALLY hard. But I have been divorced before and learned a lot from that. First, divorce sucks. Second, getting divorced is actually quite easy to do. It is much harder to work through issues and fight for a relationship. And third, God wants us to stay married, which we know through reading the bible.
So, as we head into the holidays, stresses rise and time seems to get away from us. Very often, marriages and relationships suffer most during this time, even though it's suppose to be the happiest time of the year. What can we do to make sure we have happy and healthy relationships?
Through the next several weeks, I am going to be discussing with you the need for self-care as couples, the best ways to communicate lovingly and effectively, and what the real purpose of building a strong marriage is.
I can't wait to share some of my insights with you, as well as some personal stories that has helped shaped me into the woman and wife I am today. Everyday I pray that I can be better today than what I was yesterday. A better woman, a better wife, a better mom, and a better Christian.
"And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ."(Philippians 1:6, ESV) Learning to love one another the way God intended is the most amazing gift we can give our spouses. Please follow me as we look at giving and receiving in marriage and relationships the next several weeks. May it bring you blessings, words of encouragement, and perhaps a little laughter!