Serving Your Spouse- Do YOU?
This morning, laying in bed with my iPad in hand, looking at Pinterest, combing through emails, and really just wasting time so I could savor the warmth of my bed and being close to my husband, I said, "I'm really hungry. Will you go make me breakfast?" And to my total surprise, my husband immediately got up and made me my favorite, bacon and toast, with joy in his heart.
As I smelled the bacon cooking, it struck me...1. I NEVER ask my husband just to go make me breakfast! and 2. For him to jump up and begin making breakfast, and seemingly ENJOYING it, was his way of serving me. God teaches us throughout the Bible that we are to serve one another. I know so many people who love to volunteer, constantly serving others. I know there have been times in my life when I am giving to others far more than my own family, and certainly more than what I give my husband.
Growing up, the movie "The Princess Bride" was one of my most favorite, and most watched, movies. In fact, it is still one of my all time Top Ten movies! I believe the character Wesley exemplifies this idea of serving your spouse, or the one you love, by responding with "As you wish" so many times to what Princess Buttercup asks of him. I've included a montage of "As You Wish"'s for your viewing pleasure, to help illustrate my point today!
By having an "As you wish" mentality towards your spouse, you are in fact glorifying the Lord by serving your spouse. We know from reading Genesis that God created marriage for Adam to have companionship, a partner. And while Eve made a great mistake, Adam was right there with her, as her partner, serving by her side, even during the fall. I believe God intended for us all to realize right from the beginning that the "two shall become one" (Mark 10:8) with service to one another.
Josh and I share an email address. I actually rarely use this email address, preferring my own personal email, however, Josh at some point had me set up to receive these emails on my iPhone. Every day I see a daily devotional and prayer from a website called Husband Revolution. I see that he opens this email daily. I also have come to the realization how much my husband truly does serve me. He prays for me daily. He works hard to try to constantly be a better husband. When he fails, he apologizes and figures out what needs to change. While I was smelling the bacon he was cooking for me, I had to guiltily ask myself, "How do I serve my husband?"
You see, I give others SO MUCH. I volunteer often for several different organizations, in the church, and throughout the community. I give so much of my energy and time to my students at school and my cheerleaders I coach. And, of course, I put my two sons before my husband and give of myself always for them. But, what do I really do to give to my husband? How do I serve him and glorify God? Is it when I make the bed in the morning simply because I know he likes to come home to a made bed (even though I honestly could care less because I'm still going to fall asleep in it?) Perhaps, but I know that Josh wakes up early to clean the kitchen because he knows it's helpful to me to have one less thing to do when getting the boys ready in the morning and we were too tired the night before to clean the kitchen well. Is it when I create a meal that is aligned to his dietary needs, knowing how happy he will be to come home to a hot meal after working all day, even though he will come home before me? Perhaps, but then I think about the fact that he never lets the laundry get out of control because he knows I'll procrastinate laundry as long as I can because it's not my favorite. So, then, WHAT??? What do can I do to serve my spouse???
Actually, those little things I just mentioned above, those things do show serving the person you love. It's simple. It's daily. Could I do more? Absolutely! For as much as I give to others, I know I can give way more to my husband. But then I think about how, even in that, he continues to serve me because he gives me the time to do those things. In Luke 6:38, it says, "Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full--pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back." Give and take. Serving your spouse to be served. Can I do more? Yes, I can, and want to always do more.
I ask you, how do YOU serve your spouse? My challenge for you this week is to think about this and find time to do something new to serve your spouse, showing your love for Christ by loving your spouse.
Stacie Stoney has a Master's Degree in Christian Counseling and Life Coaching from Liberty University. She has also been a middle school PE teacher for the past 18 years. Stacie is really great at helping others find their Light, Passion, and Purpose. She specializes in Marriage and Family Coaching, teaching how better communication skills creates more love and understanding. But mostly, Stacie is MOM and WIFE, and believes her number one job in this world is to raise her amazing, Christ-centered young men and serve her husband with encouragement and patience. God is good all the time, all the time, God is good!
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